As you may have noticed it’s been a very long time since I’ve written a blog post, for that I apologise. Initially it was due to the fact that it was the school holidays and I was juggling work, parenthood and family holidays. If you want to know my thoughts on balancing working from home with parenting, I wrote about them here.
However, something happened towards the end of the school holidays that has had a very deep impact on my life. My mother, with whom I have always had a very close relationship, was admitted to hospital, diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer and then transferred to a hospice where she passed away, all within the space of one month.
Now I am a one woman business, and as soon as Mum went into hospital, business was no longer one of my main priorities. Luckily, I have a couple of very good friends who are also Virtual Assistants who were happy to cover the work that couldn’t be postponed. I also have some very understanding clients who either made temporary arrangements or delayed the work for a few weeks and I would like to take this opportunity to let both colleagues and clients know how grateful I am for their support and understanding.
The experience of dealing with the estate, as the executor of Mum’s will, has been interesting, difficult, frustrating, but also easier than it could otherwise have been for one simple reason: in addition to her will, Mum had kept a notebook of all the relevant information I would need. She had made sure I knew about the notebook and knew where it was kept. It contained the following information:
1. Her wishes for her funeral/cremation – details of hymns and readings.
2. Contact details for everyone who should be told of her death.
3. Her National Insurance number
4. Details of all her bank and National Savings accounts.
5. Details of all the direct debits payable from her bank account.
6. Details of her pension accounts.
7. Details of the car and house insurance and car tax
8. Details of all her utility companies, including Council Tax
9. Details of any belongings of sentimental, historical or financial value.
This has been an invaluable document for me, making a difficult time much easier and it’s something that I would encourage anyone else to put together for their own individual circumstances, even more so if you run your own business. Even if you have a solicitor, rather than a family member or friend, as an executor for your will, a document like this makes dealing with the estate a much simpler process at a difficult time.
Talking of wills, November is Will Aid month whereby participating solicitors will draw up a will free of charge, provided you make a suitable donation to the Will Aid charity. Your donation goes to help people in need both in the UK and around the world. It’s a great way of sorting out your affairs without paying the full amount that a solicitor would normally cost. Please do consider it.
